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"Deb, you've outdone yourself!"
"Aww, thanks, Pat!"
"So, what do you call it?"
"Well, with all the candied cherries on there, I'm thinking...'THE CHERRY POPPIN' CANDY CASTLE!' What do you think?"
"I like it."
"AND, we can throw in a half dozen 'Tunnel of Love' cookies with each order!"
"Oooh, good idea! Especially since no one but those college guys will buy any."
"Yeah...I guess the extra icing must be turning people off - too many calories. Remember how that lady said they weren't family-friendly?"
"That was kind of weird. Must be one of those health nuts."
"Aw, you know how it is. People are so paranoid about what they put in their mouths these days."
Thanks to Anony M. & Christina P. for the great spread.
*****
And from my other blog, Epbot:
Written by Vetinari
Last time in this Dragonsphere playthrough we were just about to embark in a voyage across the Kingdom of Callahach starting from our own castle of Gran Callahach. When exiting the castle waystation, the game takes you to the map of the Kingdom, with the various realms that you can visit: Soptus Ecliptus, Brynn-Fann, Slathan ni Patan and Tyre nak Branwe, Sanwe's tower.
I decide to visit the Slathans first, because they seem to be the underdogs of this fantasy world. It is cool that, while the realms that you haven't visited yet appear on the map as just icons, when you go to them they change to a real 3D version of the place.
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Before... |
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...and after. |
The approach to Slathan is not the best, since two guardsmen are blocking my way. They are very prejudiced against shapeshifters, and will not allow anyone to get inside, lest they be killed and replaced by a shifter. When I try to play the “I am the King!” card, they just say that's even worse, because if I am killed and replaced the shifters will command all the kingdom.
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Yes, you seem to be a perfectly reasonable and unbiased fellow. |
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Bloody hell you two really are jerks. |
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I'm sure it will be fine if I just walk to the other side. |
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Oops. |
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Yes, we wouldn't want to kill someone's pet octopus monster. |
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Maybe change is the new normal. |
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Are you sure it's not just Play-Dough? |
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Still better than IMAX. |
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Is this Woody from Toy Story? |
Leaving the old man and proceeding along the path, I come to a shifting monster which doesn't let me pass unless I demonstrate some shifter ability. No amount of cajoling convinces the monster to let me through, so I guess I will just have to come back later on.
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It doesn't seem that much of a sightseeing attraction to me, anyway. |
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I am sure I am traveling at the speed of plot, anyway. |
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Let's hope the locale is a little more welcoming this time. |
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She is making faces at me. |
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Those two large balls on the left look a lot more menacing than the little sprites dancing about. |
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Pleasure to meet you. |
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I assure you it was not easy to get all of these statements, since the sprites tend to flutter away randomly and then you are not quite sure who is who anymore. |
Therefore, only Rachel or Ralph can be the correct ones, but Yellow-Rachel refers to another sprite as the one to ask. So you just have to ask Red-Ralph if it is safe to cross. We do so, and then...
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You cheeky bastard. |
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Shades of “Alice in Wonderland” there. |
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Good to know. |
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Anyone. |
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I don't know. |
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Trouble. (just a little bit misogynistic, I know) |
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The Butterfly King. |
He proceeds to gift us with another item (a small bird figurine), and then casually drops this bomb:
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Wha? |
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Yes, I agree. |
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What a senseless waste of human life. |
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Yeah, $@&% you too buddy. |
Dear Eric: I am very much enjoying the second time around following a long and less than joyful first marriage. My problem is plans for burial.
All of our children are terribly against our marriage even though both of our spouses were deceased at the time we met. Our children have virtually no relationship with us now and if there is any contact it is ugly.
I have a cemetery plot out of state with my deceased wife. My wife has a local plot with her deceased husband. I would like to get a new plot for the two of us but expect that any such request would receive pushback and be ignored.
My wife’s mother is buried with her second husband using her last name at the time of her death and her father is buried with a subsequent wife so there is precedent for what I want but I know her daughter would require that her mother be buried next to her father.
How do I get what I want?
I have not discussed any of this with my wife. If I did and she brought it up with her daughter the reaction would be for the daughter to express her displeasure by keeping the grandchildren from my wife. She has done that for less. If I am to get a plot, I should do that sooner rather than later as they are in short supply.
While living I would feel great joy if I could know that I could count on being buried beside my wife for all of eternity. Am I being silly to not just take the easy route?
— Burial Conflict
Plans: You have every right to make a burial plan that suits your life and your love. And — this might be controversial — you don’t have to tell your kids. If you have virtually no relationship as it is, you certainly don’t need to bend to their wishes. It seems there’s no pleasing them, anyway.
In general, it’s better to communicate about final wishes and plans for one’s end-of-life in advance. This helps intentions to be understood and gets questions answered while you’re still around to answer them. But the conflict that’s roiling your family complicates things.
Without knowing more about the circumstances of your marriage, I can’t say your kids are completely wrong, but the punishment you mentioned is more than concerning.
Perhaps they’re struggling with acceptance because of unprocessed grief, perhaps there’s something else going on that I’m not privy, too. Either way, the stated conditions dictate that the burial conversation should happen only between you and your wife right now. Once you’re both on the same page, you’ll know what the next step is. That might mean purchasing a joint plot that makes you happy and appointing someone other than one of your kids as executor. (That last part is probably wise regardless.)
There would still be a lot of complications, of course. Namely, one of you will predecease the other and at that point, presumably, the kids would find out the plan. So, while you are working on doing what brings you joy, I’d also encourage you to get down to the root of what’s going on with your kids.