bdsm and squick

I posted this as a comment and then realized it sums up very well how I feel about bdsm in fanfiction.

Personally, I am not so much squicked out by what instruments are used as by the emotional tone of the story and the beliefs that the writer and/or the characters espouse. A lot of the time I will skip stories where there is "harder" BDSM (whipping, caning, etc.) because more often those kinds of stories tend to have relationship dynamics that squick me. (And b/c of it, I'm sure I've missed things I would have enjoyed.)

It also depends on how the dynamic is treated - e.g. if the story is non-con, is that seen as perfectly fine (because it's John and Rodney and they love each other, awww) or as something fucked-up (Kolya/Rodney for example)? If it's seen as something fucked-up, I probably will like the story. If not, well, there's the back button. If it's somewhere on the edge, I may or may not like it (Stockholm syndrome, yes; abusive relationship fic, no; "Oh, he was really jealous so it's okay", no.)

On the other hand, I have a secret love for (involuntary) sex slavery fic where the "master" ends up falling in love with the slave who hates him/her and they eventually establish a consentual relationship. A good example is Beauty and the Kitsune by Eternal Treasure (which Gundam Wing, Heero/Duo - I haven't read many of this type lately.)

Of course, as always, Your Kink Is OK, It's Just Not My Kink.