in which i live up to my name

[kaizoku]

I downloaded like... 20 cds worth of music tonight. *music hangover* And then I went and saw La Misma Luna (Under the Same Moon) which is lovely and heartbreaking and bilingual and you should all go see it at the theater if you can.

*Looking at bandom picspam* I'm really glad that people like and are interested in the girlfriends of the bandboys. But it bothers me when the justification for not hating one of them is "she makes him happy." I see this ALL OVER. I get where it's coming from, because yeah, of course your first allegiance was to the person in the band. But I don't like the implication that she's just there to make the boy happy, that that is her function. And it raises the question -- if they break up and she's not making him happy anymore, are you going to go back to hating her? I don't think most (sane) people would actually do that, but that's what we're setting ourselves up for here.

I have a longer rant about how white boy fandom feels like it's all-pervasive and how frustrated I'm getting with that but I'll spare you all for now.

Comments

[jelliclekat.livejournal.com]

I don't know about other people, but I'm not implying anything when I say "she makes him happy." Generally I'm referring to Ryan Ross's girlfriend, who I'm certain has many other amazing qualities, but I just don't know all the much about her. All I know is that when she is in pictures with Ryan Ross, he has this gigantic, amazing smile on his face. Therefore I assume that she is a good person whom he cares a lot about, and when I see people wishing they'd break up, I get a little snarly.

It's not that I think her sole function as Girlfriend is to make him happy. It's just that all I know--because I do not know them in real life--is that she makes him happy, and he makes her happy, and so I am ridiculously pleased for them both and love them all to bits. If she did not make him happy--not just as in if they broke up, but if she seriously fucked him up somehow--then I would no longer think she was awesome. And vice versa if Ryan Ross ever found it in his squishy little marshmallows-and-sunbeams heart to be cruel to her--my dislike of evil people does not end where celebrities begin.

[/possibly nonsensical post-midnight babble of bandom reasoning]